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I was asked recently
if we have information about
forced mediation and shared
parenting. The position of the
National Mens Council of Ireland
is that we do not believe it
is in the interests of children
for their parents to separate.
Full stop. There is NO EVIDENCE
anywhere that shows that children
benefit from having their parents
choose to stop protecting them
and to care for them on a part-time
basis, even 50% of the time.
We believe that Marriage is
in the interests of children.
The Husband's natural propensity
and indeed the expectation in
law is that he will protect
his children. He plainly can
not do that if they are not
with him due to a 'separation'.
We have stopped using the term
'separation' in our own work
as it implies consent. There
is rarely voluntary consent.
If there is we can not support
a man consenting to relieve
himself of the duty to protect
his children.
In our experience and according
to known statistics it is almost
always women who desert their
marriages where there are minor
children. A unifying bond between
fathers in the National Mens
Council of Ireland is that they
are deserted by their wives
and forced, against their will,
into being separate from their
children by order and physical
force of the state. Family law
as it stands in Ireland (and
everywhere else also) benefits
the defaulter and as such is
anti-marriage and persecutes
father-headed households. No
man should submit himself to
such laws as they are entirely
abusive and unconstitutional
to his duty and right to protect
his children. Law must be moral
otherwise it commands no respect
other than as a show of naked
force and totalitarianism. The
last dregs of morality in Family
law, left after the state has
taken out most of the protections
of Marriage, is being usurped
by collusion between the vulture
solicitors, in particular the
Legal Aid Board and members
of the Court Service. Any man
that submits to that set of
immorality exposes his Family
to certain injustice.
Women are being seduced by the
guarantee of financial and property
settlements in their favour
and the knowledge that they
will gain control of the Husband
by exploiting the children.
We see our main function as
stopping the holocaust of children
being bewildered and abused
by their parents not living
under the same roof as them
all the time and having arbitrary
restrictions imposed on their
relationship with them. This
is being achieved through the
persecution and destruction
of father-headed households
(ie Marriages) by the state.
If women knew that they would
not get 100% control of the
children it would reduce their
appetite to desert their marriage.
However this is not the solution
to the problem as the state
would undoubtedly rig some other
process to destroy marriages.
More importantly for us even
50/50 presents a solution that
is inconsistent with our primary
goal of preventing children
from suffering the incredibly
traumatic experience of their
parents abandoning them - even
if for [only!] 50% of the time..
Our focus must remain on promoting
a rational debate on the virtue
of Marriage for children and
the Common Good so that people
understand that they not only
have rights but more importantly,
if they want to have a family
life and live in a society where
dignity and liberty is assured
for every individual, they also
have a DUTY to get married and
STAY married! Our work therefore
is to force the state, against
their will, to bring back laws
and social policies which support
Marriage.
Roger Eldridge, Chairman. National
Men's Council of Ireland, Knockvicar,
Boyle, Co. Roscommon
Www.family-men.com
Tel: 00 353 (0) 71-9667138 Email:
familymen@eircom.net
