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Hawking
to
Pay
Huge
Divorce
Settlement
to
His
Abuser
To
add
insult
to
injury,
Stephen
Hawking
will
now
be
paying
out
a
large
sum
of
money--in
the
millions,
probably--to
the
woman
who
battered
him.
According
to
Hawking's
nurse
reveals
why
she
is
not
surprised
his
marriage
is
over
(Daily
Mail;
10/20/06):
"[Elaine]
will
leave
her
second
marriage
considerably
wealthier
than
she
did
her
first.
"The
couple's
townhouse
in
Cambridge,
purchased
in
1992
and
now
worth
$1.4
million
is
in
their
joint
names.
"Moreover,
he
has
amassed
a
vast
personal
fortune.
"More
than
210,000
copies
of
his
book
A
Brief
History
Of
Time
have
been
sold
in
the
past
eight
years
alone,
netting
more
than
$3.5
million.
He
has
also
made
lucrative
sums
from
other
books.
"On
Thursday,
Mrs.
Hawking,
who
has
always
denied
marrying
for
money,
cycled
to
the
(former)
marital
home
where
she
was
understood
to
have
attended
a
meeting
with
solicitors.
"'I
have
been
told
that
-
surprise
-
one
of
the
stumbling
blocks
in
the
divorce
is
money,'
said
an
old
family
friend."
Hawking
and
Anti-Male
Bias
There
are
a
couple
of
other
interesting
elements
in
the
article
on
Hawking,
including
this
section:
"Elaine
was,
as
we
know,
originally
Prof
Hawking's
nurse
and
joined
the
staff
after
he
had
a
tracheotomy
operation
in
1985
-
the
result
of a
previous
pneumonia
infection
which
nearly
killed
him.
"The
operation
left
him
unable
to
breath
unaided
and
in
need
of
round-the-clock
supervision.
"It
was
Elaine's
former
husband,
engineer
David
Mason,
who
made
the
voicebox
which
created
the
robot-like
vocal
tone
for
which
Prof
Hawking
is
now
famous.
"From
the
start,
say
friends,
she
set
out
to
ingratiate
herself
with
him,
and,
over
a
period
of
time,
the
family
noticed
the
mesmeric
hold
the
'new
nurse'
was
beginning
to
exert
over
her
charge,
and
felt
deeply
uneasy.
"'She
brainwashed
him
to
think
that
she
was
the
only
person
who
could
possibly
look
after
him,'
one
friend
recalled.
"'She
was
also
really
jealous
of
his
children
and
the
close
relationship
they
had
with
him.'
"Matters
were
complicated
when
his
wife
of
26
years
began
having
an
affair
in
the
Eighties
-
with,
apparently,
Hawking's
tacit
approval
-
with
a
choirmaster,
whom
she
had
befriended
after
his
wife
died
of
leukaemia.
"Elaine
began
accompanying
Prof
Hawking
on
trips
abroad.
"Prof
Hawking
and
Jane
divorced
in
1990.
"He
finally
married
Elaine
in
1995
but
neither
Jane
or
their
three
children
attended."
What's
interesting
about
this
is
that
I
can
distinctly
remember
that
when
Hawking
and
his
wife
Jane
divorced
in
1990,
this
was
portrayed
as
yet
another
example
of
men
dumping
their
faithful,
devoted
wives
for
a
younger
model.
In
fact,
I
can
distinctly
remember
this
being
portrayed
as
"see,
all
men
do
it--even
this
guy
who's
crippled
does
it."
Somehow
the
fact
that
Jane
was
having
an
affair
before
their
break-up
didn't
seem
to
be
part
of
the
public
discussion
of
the
issue.
I
discussed
the
myth
that
many
men
ditch
their
loving
wives
for
younger
women
in
my
co-authored
column
The
Rise
in
'Gray
Divorce':
It's
Always
Hubby's
Fault
(Houston
Chronicle,
2/19/06).
I
wrote:
"...the
stereotype
of
the
husband
trading
in
his
wife
for
a
younger
model
is
by
and
large
a
myth.
The
women
in
[a
recent
American
Association
of
Retired
Persons]
study
were
60%
more
likely
to
claim
that
they
ended
their
marriages
than
the
men
were,
and
men
were
almost
twice
as
likely
as
women
to
say
that
they
never
saw
their
divorces
coming.
In
contrast
to
the
Porsche
and
trophy
wife
stereotype,
the
AARP
study
found
that
these
divorced
men
had
many
serious
concerns,
high
among
them
their
fear
of
losing
touch
with
their
children
after
their
divorces...Though
nobody
says
it,
'dumped
for
a
younger
woman'
is
sometimes
just
a
woman's
cop-out
for
not
taking
responsibility
for
her
own
contribution
to
the
marital
breakdown."
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Fatherhood
Leader,
Author
Dies
Robert
Seidenberg,
author
of
The
Father's
Emergency
Guide
to
Divorce-Custody
Battle,
died
last
week
following
a
courageous
battle
with
cancer.
I
didn't
agree
with
Robert
on
everything,
but
his
book
and
subsequent
commentaries
are
very
insightful,
and
I
highly
recommend
them.
Robert
was
one
of
the
first
to
grasp
and
detail
the
devastation
wreaked
by
the
use
of
fallacious
restraining
orders
during
divorce.
Seidenberg
founded
Fathers
for
Virginia,
an
affiliate
of
the
American
Coalition
for
Fathers
and
Children,
in
the
mid-'90s.
Robert's
Washington
Post
obituary
is
here.
There
are
many
touching
memories
of
Robert
which
his
friends
and
loved
ones
shared
in
his
guest
book
here.
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Wisdom
of
Our
Fathers
As I
mentioned
last
week
in
relation
to
my
co-authored
column
America's
Father
Hunger
(World
Net
Daily,
10/13/06),
a
new
feature
on
my
enewsletter
for
the
near
future
is
going
to
be
an
excerpt
from
Wisdom
of
Our
Fathers.
Today's
excerpt
is a
story
from
Mary
Jo
Ferro
of
East
Amherst,
NY,
about
her
father
Charles
E.
Darling.
It's
called
"The
Watermelon":
"On
a
warm
summer
evening
in
western
New
York
when
I
was
seven,
my
dad
and
I
were
eating
watermelon
slices
on
what
we
called
our
patio:
we
would
open
the
garage
door,
place
lawn
chairs
at
the
top
of
the
driveway,
and
watch
the
neighborhood.
"My
brother
always
swallowed
the
watermelon
seeds,
but
I
saved
mine
in a
pile
on
the
edge
of
my
plate.
'Do
you
think
if I
plant
these
in
the
ground
a
watermelon
will
grow?'
I
asked
my
dad.
'Sure!'
he
replied.
'In
fact,
if
you
plant
cheerios
in
the
ground,
you
can
grow
donuts,
too!'
"With
this
exciting
horticulture
project
in
mind,
I
took
my
pile
of
small,
slippery
seeds
and
placed
them
on a
paper
towel
to
dry
over
night.
I
was
eager
to
plant
them
the
next
morning.
"The
next
day
was
Saturday.
My
dad
popped
his
head
through
the
side
door
of
the
garage
as I
was
digging
six
small
holes
in
the
soil
along
the
strip
of
land
we
shared
with
our
next-door
neighbors.
'Are
you
going
to
grow
that
watermelon?'
he
asked.
"'Sure
am!'
I
replied
as I
patted
the
dirt
on
top
of
the
six
neat
crevices.
It
was
only
8:30
A.M.,
so
the
watermelon
had
the
entire
day
to
emerge.
"An
hour
later,
I
ran
to
where
I
planted
the
seeds
to
see
if
the
watermelon
had
grown.
Believe
it
or
not,
there
was
not
even
a
sprout.
An
hour
later
I
checked
again.
Still
nothing.
While
I
was
eating
lunch,
my
dad
was
standing
outside
the
house
and
called
to
me,
'Mary
Jo!
Come
here!'
I
ran
outside
so
fast
I
broke
the
sound
barrier.
"'What
is
it?'
I
asked.
"'I
just
wanted
to
let
you
know
that
the
watermelon
hasn't
grown
yet.'
He
pulled
this
stunt
over
and
over,
until
I
finally
started
to
ignore
him
when
he
called
me.
"After
a
few
days,
I
put
the
watermelon
plant
out
of
my
mind
and
continued
with
the
other
important
issues
of
being
seven,
when
suddenly
my
mother
called
me
from
my
bedroom.
'Mary
Jo!
Come
outside!'
I
went
out
the
front
door
and
followed
her
calls
to
the
side
of
the
house.
Right
there,
vertically
positioned,
stood
a
perfect
green
watermelon
that
had
apparently
grown
directly
from
the
ground.
My
dad
stood
next
to
her,
feigning
amazement
at
my
green
thumb.
'It's
incredible!
We'll
have
a
party!'
"Later
that
evening,
several
of
the
neighbors
came
over
to
our
'patio.'
We
cracked
open
the
watermelon,
and
Dad
made
it
known
that
I
was
a
superstar
for
growing
the
amazing
fruit.
I
was
too
excited
and
too
naive
to
notice
that
the
price
tag
was
still
on
it."
The
Carrot
Seed
Anybody
remember
the
children's
book
The
Carrot
Seed?
I
had
a
very
similar
experience
to
the
story
above
with
my
son
when
he
was
five.
His
favorite
bedtime
story
was
always
The
Carrot
Seed,
in
which
a
little
boy
plants
a
carrot
seed
and
everybody
tells
him
"it
won't
come
up"
but
he
keeps
diligently
watering
it
even
though
nothing
grows.
Eventually
a
whole
bunch
of
carrots
come
up
and
the
boy
is
ecstatic.
One
day
I
told
my
son
we
should
plant
some
carrot
seeds.
My
son
watered
that
space
religiously
for
several
weeks
and
there
was
absolutely
no
sign
of
life.
So
one
day
I
went
to
the
grocery
store
and
bought
a
big
bushel
of
carrots
with
the
green
stems
still
on
them.
I
dug
up
the
area
where
we
had
planted
the
seeds,
stuck
the
carrots
in
them
and
then
buried
them
with
just
a
tiny
bit
of
the
green
stem
sticking
up.
It
worked
perfectly--my
son
dug
them
up
and
was
thrilled
over
his
carrots.
Oh,
and
unlike
the
dad
in
Wisdom,
I
did
remember
to
take
the
store
label
off
the
carrots...
Don't
Hire
This
Lawyer...
New
Jersey
family
law
attorney
Theodore
Sliwinski
writes
in
his
Divorcenet.com
column
New
Jersey
Custody
and
Visitation
Rights:
"A
new
trend
in
family
law
is
to
have
shared
residential
custody.
This
means
that
the
children
live
with
both
parents.
In
my
opinion
this
is
really
a
scam
that
is
used
by
many
ex-husbands.
"This
type
of
shared
custody
is
primarily
a
ploy
by
ex-husbands
to
reduce
their
child
support
obligations.
The
more
overnights
that
the
husband
has
will
translate
into
a
lower
child
support
award.
"I
always
recommend
to
all
of
my
clients
to
reject
a
shared
parenting
plan.
Furthermore,
I
always
advise
my
clients
to
permit
the
non-custodial
parent
to
see
their
children
as
much
as
possible.
However,
I
don't
permit
my
clients
to
agree
to a
shared
parenting
plan
because
in
most
cases
it
is
just
a
ploy
by
husbands
to
pay
lower
child
support."
It
never
seems
to
occur
to
this
brilliant
legal
mind
that
the
opposite
case
is
just
as
applicable.
In
my
co-authored
column
Louisiana's
HB
315
Says
One
Parent
is
Better
Than
Two
(Shreveport
Times,
5/20/06)
I
wrote:
"Unfortunately,
rather
than
putting
the
need
to
preserve
children's
relationships
with
both
parents
at
the
center
of
the
discussion,
advocates
of
HB
315
are
instead
focusing
on
child
support.
In
Louisiana,
like
most
states,
how
much
time
each
parent
spends
with
his
or
her
children
helps
determine
how
much
child
support
is
ordered.
Rep.
Shirley
Bowler
(R-River
Ridge),
who
authored
the
bill,
asserts
that
dads
seek
shared
custody
as a
way
to
decrease
their
child
support
obligations.
She
promotes
HB
315
as a
way
to
'remove
this
angle'
in
the
current
law,
which
she
claims
divorced
dads
are
exploiting.
"While
it
is
true
that
there
are
fathers
who
put
their
pocketbooks
above
their
children's
best
interests,
Bowler
and
the
bill's
supporters
ignore
the
obvious
converse.
If a
dad
may
seek
50%
physical
time
with
his
children
simply
to
lower
his
child
support
obligation,
doesn't
it
also
hold
that
a
mother
may
seek
85%
physical
time
in
order
to
increase
it?"
Sliwinski's
comments
also
reminded
me
of
this
brief
but
memorable
exchange
on
His
Side
with
Glenn
Sacks
with
feminist
blogger
Amanda
Marcotte:
Marcotte:
"Men
want
shared
custody
so
they
can
avoid
paying
child
support"
Sacks:
"Couldn't
it
just
be
that
they
want
to
be
with
their
kids?"
I
also
wonder
about
the
line
"I
don't
permit
my
clients
to
agree
to a
shared
parenting
plan
because
in
most
cases
it
is
just
a
ploy
by
husbands
to
pay
lower
child
support."
Does
this
mean
that,
when
Sliwinski
is
representing
a
mother
who
wants
to
drop
the
vindictive
female
routine
and
adopt
shared
parenting,
he
can
legally
stop
her?
Sliwinski
can
be
reached
at
732-257-0708
or
by
email
at
info@divorcecenterofnj.com.
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No
Jail Time
for
Infanticide
When women
kill,
there's
always an
excuse for
it. Example
number I
lost count a
long time
ago is out
of England--Mother
sentenced
over son's
death
(10/23/06):
"A woman
who started
a fire which
killed her
baby boy has
been
sentenced to
three years
probation.
Danielle
Wails, 22,
was on trial
for
murdering
little
Alexander
Lee but
pleaded
guilty to
the lesser
charge of
infanticide.
"Psychiatrists
told the
court
post-natal
depression
had played a
part. Single
mother Wails
originally
told police
that
intruders
had tied her
up and
started the
fire in her
house in
Newcastle in
August 2005.
"She said
she used her
tongue to
dial 999
after she
was bound by
the wrist by
attackers
but officers
could find
no sign of a
break-in and
eventually
Wails
admitted she
had started
the fire
herself and
responsible
for her
son's death.
"Paul
Sloan QC,
prosecuting,
told the
court: 'She
has admitted
infanticide
on the basis
that at the
time the
balance of
her mind was
disturbed by
reason of
not having
fully
recovered
from the
effects of
giving birth
to the
child.'
"Two
psychiatrists
are of the
opinion that
the balance
of her mind
was
disturbed."
Interesting
that she was
too mentally
ill to be
expected to
care for her
baby without
murdering
him but not
too mentally
ill to weave
an elaborate
plot to try
to cover up
her crime
and deceive
the police.
Men's
activist
Jeremy
Swanson is
correct in a
recent email
he sent in
which he
wrote
"Imagine the
little boy's
last seconds
on earth
before the
fire
consumed
him. He
would have
reached for
his Mother
and called
her name."
Comparing
the severity
of sentences
is always
tricky,
particularly
across state
lines or, in
this case,
international
boundaries.
However, for
what little
it's worth,
in reading
of this
case--where
a woman who
intentionally
set a fire
in order to
kill her
baby
receives a
"sentence"
of a
whopping 3
years
probation--I
couldn't
help but
think of the
case of
Texas
teenager
Gerardo
Flores. In
my column
Alito and
the Rights
of Men (Los
Angeles
Times,
11/1/05) I
wrote:
"Fetal
protection
laws now
severely
punish
anyone who
harms a
fetus--except
for mom. A
Texas
teenager
named
Gerardo
Flores is
now serving
life in
prison for
the death of
two fetuses
even though
his former
girlfriend,
Erica
Basoria,
acknowledged
asking him
to help end
her
pregnancy.
According to
Basoria,
four months
into her
pregnancy
she
regretted
not getting
an abortion
and punched
herself in
the stomach
while Flores
stepped on
her stomach
to induce a
miscarriage.
Basoria, who
stood by
Flores and
cried when
he was
sentenced,
could not be
prosecuted
because of
her legal
right to
abortion."
How
to
Stop
a
Dirty
Divorce
Many
fathers
are
very
naive
when
they
walk
into
family
court,
and
the
results
can
be
disastrous.
Family
Law
Attorney
A.J.
Comparetto's
Ultimate
Guide
to
Stopping
a
Dirty
Divorce
teaches
you
the
Dirty
Divorce
tricks
before
they
are
played
on
you.
It's
a
series
of
cassettes
and
videos
which
teaches
you
what
judges
really
want
to
hear
from
you
in
court,
how
to
keep
your
words
from
being
twisted
by
attorneys,
and
how
to
keep
your
kids
from
being
caught
in
the
middle.
www.divorceproblems.com.
Congressional
Candidate
Takes
Strong
Stand
for
Noncustodial
Parents'
Rights
In
2004
Libertarian
presidential
candidate
Michael
Badnarik
had
a
strong
noncustodial
parents'
rights
platform.
Badnarik
is
clearly
aware
of
and
sensitive
to
the
basic
problems
fathers
today
face,
particularly
the
sole
custody
norm
and
the
denigration
of
noncustodial
parents
to
"second
class
parent"
status.
Badnarik
is
running
for
Congress
in
2006--to
learn
more,
go
to
www.badnarik.org.
Concerned
about
Financial
Issues
in
Your
Divorce?
If
you're
concerned
about
financial
issues
in
your
divorce,
contact
Jim
DiGabriele
of
DiGabriele,
McNulty
& Co
by
email
here
or
at
973-243-2600.
Los
Angeles
Dads--Free
Legal
Consultation
on
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Case
If
you
are
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domestic
violence,
paternity,
child
custody
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support
case
in
the
greater
Los
Angeles
area,
call
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A.
Gershman
to
schedule
your
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at
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in
Family
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by
the
Board
of
Legal
Specialization
of
the
State
Bar
of
California.
He
is
an
experienced
attorney,
over
25
years,
who
will
competently
and
aggressively
defend
you
against
unjust
domestic
violence
restraining
orders
or
unfair
financial
obligations.
When
Parental
Alienation
or
custody
is
an
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he
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you
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your
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with
your
kids.
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Trumpeting
the
Father
of
the
Year
A
couple
weeks
ago
I
discussed
an
article
about
an
amazing
father
by
Rick
Reilly
of
Sports
Illustrated--see
The
World's
Greatest
Father.
Last
week
Reilly
wrote
about
another
remarkable
dad
in
his
column
"Trumpeting
the
Father
of
the
Year"
(Sports
Illustrated,
10/16/06).
Reilly
writes:
"QUESTION:
What
has
four
wheels,
four
feet,
two
eyes
and
one
horn?
"Answer:
Trumpet
position
number
7 in
the
Louisville
marching
band.
"Meet
Patrick
Henry
Hughes
and
his
dad,
Patrick
John
Hughes--the
only
two-person
marching-band
member
in
college
football.
"Patrick
Henry,
18--born
with
a
rare
genetic
disorder
that
left
him
without
eyes,
and
with
arms
and
legs
that
won't
straighten--plays
the
trumpet
from
his
wheelchair.
Patrick
John,
45,
pushes
the
wheelchair.
You
can
watch
them
roll
during
the
halftime
show
at
Cardinals
home
games.
'I
was
a
little
worried
about
the
endurance
factor
at
first,'
says
band
director
Greg
Byrne.
'Not
Patrick's.
His
dad's.'
"You
think
it's
easy
pushing
a
165-pound
man,
in
full
uniform,
around
a
spongy
artificial-turf
field,
trying
to
keep
up
with
213
other
band
members
and
get
to
your
spot
in
the
A in
CARDS
and
the
L in
U OF
L,
while
not
getting
slammed
by
the
person
marching
behind
you--all
on
four
hours'
sleep
because
you
work
the
graveyard
shift
loading
planes
for
UPS?
You
try
it.
"'My
job
is
just
to
get,
say,
to
the
32
1/2-yard
line
at
the
exact
right
time,'
says
the
older
Patrick,
who
doesn't
wear
the
band
uniform.
'Every
now
and
then
I'll
take
a
mellophone
in
the
back,
but
mostly
it's
been
a
blast!'
"'He
hasn't
dumped
me
yet,'
young
Patrick
says,
grinning.
"Dad
also
pushes
his
son
to
classes,
sits
with
him
and
whispers
anything
written
on
the
blackboard.
After
band
practice
they
go
home
and
eat
dinner,
then
Dad
goes
to
work
at
11
p.m.,
gets
off
at 5
a.m.,
sleeps
a
little
and
gets
up
at
11
for
breakfast,
classes
and
band.
If
this
guy
isn't
Father
of
the
Year,
I'm
Liberace.
"Patrick
John
and
Patricia
Hughes,
a
sales
assistant
in a
brokerage
firm,
have
been
going
full-Patrick-ahead
since
he
was
born.
'My
wife
and
I
were
sort
of
devastated
at
first,'
the
father
says.
'I
mean,
we
played
by
all
the
rules.
We
worked
hard.
She
didn't
have
any
alcohol
during
the
pregnancy.
Why
us?'
But
then
they
started
finding
out
why
them.
Dad,
a
violinist
and
pianist,
found
that
he
could
calm
his
baby
boy
by
laying
him
on
top
of
the
piano
and
tickling
the
ivories.
By
nine
months
young
Patrick
was
tapping
keys
on
the
piano,
mimicking
his
dad
in a
listen-and-play
exercise.
By
two
years
old
he
was
playing
Sesame
Street
songs.
"Now
the
kid's
a
killer
pianist
and
a
monster
trumpet
player.
Even
though
people
have
tried
to
stop
him--like
the
ones
at a
performing-arts
school
in
Louisville
who
discouraged
the
Hugheses
from
even
applying--he
has
done
nothing
but
succeed.
Was
all-state
in
band
and
chorus
at
Atherton
High.
Had
a
3.99
GPA.
Sang
a
duet
with
Pam
Tillis
at
the
Grand
Ole
Opry.
Played
piano
at
the
Kennedy
Center
in
Washington,
D.C.
Put
out
a CD
of
23
songs.
"So
when
he
enrolled
at
the
university,
young
Patrick
asked
to
join
the
pep
band,
which
guaranteed
a
precious
seat
at
Cardinals
basketball
games.
But
director
Byrne
crossed
him
up.
He
asked
him,
'Why
don't
you
join
the
marching
band?'
"Next
thing
you
know,
the
teenager
and
his
father
were
at
band
summer
camp--12-hour
days
with
only
90-minute
breaks
for
lunch
and
dinner.
Dad
pushed
like
crazy,
and
young
Patrick
played
the
theme
from
Superman
while
being
whirled
around
in
his
own
giddy
darkness.
"It
about
killed
Pop.
'I
was
whipped,'
he
says.
So
he
took
the
chair
to a
mechanic
friend,
who
rigged
it
with
bigger,
wider
wheels.
That
helped
them
get
through
the
triple
Axel
of
marching-band
maneuvers:
the
dreaded
Diamond.
Two
battalions
of
marchers
come
at
each
other
in
full
stride,
intersect,
reverse,
then
split
apart
again.
To
pull
it
off,
Dad
has
to
pop
a
wheelie,
spin
the
chair,
try
not
to
wipe
out
the
entire
wind
section,
then
peel
off
the
other
way.
'It
takes
everything
I've
got
to
make
sure
I'm
in
step,'
the
older
Patrick
says.
'If
I
don't
get
there
quick
enough,
or
cut
quick
enough,
I'm
the
lone
cowboy
out
at
the
end
of
this
thing.
I
don't
want
people
to
remember
us
as
the
kid
in
the
wheelchair
whose
dad
couldn't
keep
up'...
"Life
with
this
kid
just
keeps
getting
more
fun.
'We
still
say,
Why
us?'
says
the
father.
'But
now
it's,
Why
us--how'd
we
get
so
lucky?'"
Will
I
See
You
at
the
Children's
Rights
Council
Conference
in
November?
The
Children's
Rights
Council's
20th
Anniversary
conference--"Shared
Parenting
in
the
21st
Century:
Exploring
the
Best
Interests
of
Children"--will
be
held
in
the
Washington,
DC
area
from
November
3rd
through
the
6th.
I
will
be
speaking
there,
along
with
numerous
interesting
guests.
To
learn
more
about
the
conference,
click
here.
To
read
the
conference
flyer,
click
here.
Late
note
from
CRC
CEO
David
L.
Levy--"if
money
is
an
issue,
people
can
come
at
the
early
bird
rate
of
$20,
and
that
includes
meals
throughout
the
conference.
The
Sheraton
Crystal
City
hotel
is
$109
a
night,
but
that
people
can
ask
the
CRC
for
a
room
share.
Call
us
at
1-800-0787-KIDS."
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Column:
Russert's
Bestseller
Reflects
America's
Father
Hunger
My recent
co-authored
column,
America's
Father
Hunger (World
Net Daily,
10/13/06),
discusses
Tim
Russert's
new book
Wisdom of
Our Fathers:
Lessons and
Letters from
Daughters
and Sons.
In 2004,
Russert
published
Big Russ and
Me about
his father,
and says he
received an
"avalanche"
of letters
from men and
women who
wanted to
tell him
about their
own dads.
Wisdom
is largely a
sampling of
those 60,000
letters, and
the book is
a surprise
runaway hit.
Mike
McCormick,
Executive
Director of
the
American
Coalition
for Fathers
& Children,
and I wrote:
"Are fathers
irrelevant?
Are they
really the
useless
buffoons we
see on TV?
The
irresponsible
deadbeats
the local DA
says they
are? The
controlling
abusers we
see in
domestic
violence
PSAs?
"That's not
the way Tim
Russert's
readers see
them...
"In
heartwarming
and
heart-wrenching
stories,
Russert's
readers
remember
their
fathers as
strong,
devoted and
honorable.
In the
chapter
'Daddy's
Girl,' one
woman tells
Russert that
she was her
'father's
princess,'
and explains
'growing up
in a rural
area of the
Deep South
could have
been a harsh
experience
for a little
black girl,
but I was
insulated by
his love and
tenderness.'
"Another
'Daddy's
Girl'
writes:
"'When I was
a little
girl and my
father put
me to
bed...I had
a litany of
things I
went through
every night.
'Can I call
you if I
need
anything?...Can
I call you
if I get
scared?'...He
would listen
and say yes
after each
one, and I
would fall
asleep,
secure that
I was
completely
loved and
cared
for...'
"Perhaps the
book's most
striking
feature is
the
overwhelming
outpouring
of love from
women
towards
their
fathers.
"The Russert
dads also
knew when to
take a
stand. One
letter
writer
remembers:
"'By 1963,
white flight
was
beginning to
transform
our
neighborhood,
and before
long the
first
African
American
child took a
seat in my
Catholic
school
classroom.
Birthday
parties were
about the
biggest
social
events a
third-grader
had to look
forward to,
and I was
delighted to
receive an
invitation
to her
party. Then
I learned
that none of
my friends
were going.
I remember
being
confused by
that,
because we
all went to
one
another's
parties. But
if my
friends
weren't
going to
this one, I
wasn't going
to go
either,
especially
when they
seemed
convinced
that there
was
something
wrong with
the very
idea.'
"'...Dad put
his foot
down and
told me
that, like
it or not, I
was going to
that party.
He took me
to the
five-and-dime
and we
bought a
card and a
gift. The
day of the
party, he
took me by
the hand and
we walked
the three or
four blocks
to the
girl's
apartment.
My whining
and
complaining
were
useless, and
it wasn't
until many
years later
that I
understood
why he made
me go. He
knew why
none of my
friends was
there, and
he wanted no
part of it.
No child of
his was
going to
contribute
to the hurt
that would
surely be
felt by a
little girl
sitting at
an empty
birthday
table."
Another
says:
"'My dad's
second job
was serving
in the New
Jersey
National
Guard...In
the summer
of 1967, his
Guard unit
was sent to
Newark,
where a riot
had erupted
and the
police were
having
trouble
containing
it...When he
died a few
years ago,
we had both
his memorial
service and
his wake in
a local
restaurant...one
of dad's old
guard
buddies,
Sergeant
'Jeep'
MacAdams,
grabbed the
sleeve of my
suit...Jeep
rasped into
my
ear...'You
know we were
in Newark
during the
riots of
'sixty-seven.
It was a
combat
situation,
let me tell
you. I want
you to know
what an
excellent
and brave
soldier your
old man was.
He was a
true
leader.'
"'We were
called to a
building
that the
state police
had their
machine guns
trained on.
They said
they needed
backup
because
there were
rioters in
the
building.
They told us
to help them
take this
position
with tear
gas, machine
guns,
grenades,
whatever.'
"'Your dad
challenged
the state
cops from
the get-go.
He asked
them what
made them
think there
were no
innocent
civilians
inside the
position.
The state
police were
zealous, you
see. They
had already
fired shots,
and they
wanted us to
fire warning
shots, but
your dad
asked them
to please
hold their
fire. Then
he
volunteered
to assess
the
situation.
He stayed
low and got
to the big
door of the
building,
which was
locked, and
he calmly
announced,
'I'm with
the New
Jersey
National
Guard and
I'm here to
lead you to
safety.
Everything
will be ok.
Follow me.'
"'Suddenly,
about
twenty-five
black high
school kids
came out of
the building
behind him,
shaking and
crying. Your
dad was
comforting
them with
one hand and
giving the
'hold your
fire' sign
with the
other. He
asked if
they needed
water or
food...If he
hadn't
gotten
involved,
I'm sure
there would
have been
bloodshed,
if not
death.'
"This is
what I
learned for
the first
time at my
dad's
memorial
service.
Could I be
more proud
of him had
he won the
Congressional
Medal of
Honor? I
don't think
so."
"Wisdom's
significance
goes far
beyond that
of a
sentimental
journey.
It's success
is a
testament to
the hunger
so many
Americans
feel for
what recent
generations
have
lost--their
fathers. The
book's
letters are
overwhelmingly
from baby
boomers--perhaps
the last
generation
of Americans
who could
ever be
reasonably
confident
that they'd
have a
father in
their
lives."
Glenn
Discusses
Wisdom of
Our Fathers
on
Radio--Audio
Available
Partly
because the
mainstream
media has
given
Wisdom of
Our Fathers
very little
attention,
and partly
because I'm
dense, I was
not aware of
the book's
success
until my
friend Al
Rantel,
radio talk
show host at
KABC AM 790
in Los
Angeles,
contacted me
about
discussing
the book on
his show. To
listen to
our
discussion
of the book
and of the
crisis in
American
fatherhood,
click
here.
Lisa
Scott
Launches
RealFamilyLaw.com
Shared
Parenting
Advocate/Family
Law
Attorney
Lisa
Scott
has
launched
www.RealFamilyLaw.com
to
expose
the
truth
about
what
is
happening
in
our
family
law
system.
Lisa,
the
all-time
leader
in
appearances
on
His
Side
with
Glenn
Sacks,
says
that
she
was
"tired
of
having
her
stuff
rejected
by
elitist
bar
publications
and
politically-correct
newspapers"
and
decided
to
start
her
own
website.
www.RealFamilyLaw.com
Help
for
Michigan
Dads
Michigan
family
law
attorney
Mindy
L.
Hitchcock
has
experience
fighting
for
noncustodial
parents
against
Michigan's
abusive
FOC.
Her
holistic
approach
to
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for
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clients
while
avoiding
the
scorched
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I Love
It--Fathers
4 Justice
Wins Again
I am a
great
admirer of
the English
fathers'
group
Fathers 4
Justice and
its founder
Matt
O'Connor.
Fathers 4
Justice
recently
scored
another
success.
According to
this article:
"A Fathers
for Justice
campaigner
has promised
the 'fight
will
continue'
after a jury
decided a
rooftop
protest at
the Palace
of
Westminster
had not
broken the
law.
"Farmer Guy
Harrison,
who spent
four-and-a-half
hours
perched on a
spire, was
mobbed by
cheering
supporters
as he left
the
courtroom.
"He staged
the effort
to spotlight
his fight
for access
to a
nine-year-old
daughter he
had not seen
for over
five years.
"The
father-of-one
said his
acquittal on
a public
nuisance
charge
meant, 'we
have won a
battle.'
"'But we
have not won
the war and
the fight
will
continue.'"
"London's
Southwark
Crown Court
heard the
prosecution
brand his
demonstration
as nothing
more than
'an
illegitimate
and selfish'
stunt.
"Ian
Pattern,
prosecuting,
claimed the
incident on
September 27
last year
risked
Harrison's
life, forced
police to
seal off
Westminster
Hall, tied
up ambulance
and fire
brigade
crews, and
endangered
others from
possible
falling
masonry.
"But the
39-year-old,
an amateur
mountaineer,
assured
jurors his
safety was
never an
issue, no
one else was
put at risk,
and that the
police
response
amounted to
an over
reaction.
"He also
argued that
the route he
followed to
the roof
exposed a
serious
security
loophole
terrorists
could have
taken
advantage
of.
"In the
event the
seven women
and five men
trying him
took just
over
five-hours
to decide he
had done
nothing
wrong."
I've
explicitly
endorsed
F4J's
tactics on
the air and
in
newspapers,
including in
In Defense
of Spiderman
(Cybercast
News
Service,
11/11/03),
Powder
Attack on
Tony Blair
Done in
Service of a
Just Cause
(Fredericksburg
Free
Lance-Star,
6/20/04),
Nonviolent
Resistance
by British
'Dads Army'
Rocks UK
(2/15/04),
and
Leader of
British
'Dads Army'
Discusses
Group's
Rapid Rise,
Upcoming
Plans
(6/22/03).
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Am I Crazy?
I never
hear anyone
else say it,
so I guess
I'm the only
one who
thinks this
way, but I
can't
describe how
amazed and
appalled I
am that Gil
Garcetti is
the
president of
the Los
Angeles
Ethics
Commission.
As Los
Angeles
District
Attorney
Garcetti
treated
California
men and
fathers so
horribly
that even
arch-feminist
attorney
Gloria
Allred
protested
the actions
of his
office.
Garcetti
is regularly
in the news
here in Los
Angeles for
his role as
an ethicist,
such as in
this recent
Los Angeles
Daily News
article.
With a
straight
face
reporters
quote
Garcetti on
"ethics"
though, as I
explained in
my
co-authored
column
Some
Progress for
California
Fathers, but
Still a Long
Way to Go
(Pasadena
Star-News
& Affiliated
Papers,
Daily Breeze
[Los
Angeles],
6/18/06),
Garcetti is
not morally
capable of
holding the
office of
dog catcher,
much less
President of
the Los
Angeles City
Commission
on Ethics. I
wrote:
"In 1998
then-Los
Angeles
District
Attorney Gil
Garcetti
declared a
'get tough'
campaign
against
so-called
'deadbeat
dads,'
sending out
thousands of
summonses
for
paternity
cases. The
men were
given only
30 days to
respond.
"Many of
the
summonses
targeted the
wrong men,
and many
never
reached the
intended
parties.
Eighty
percent of
Garcetti's
paternity
judgments
were made by
default,
locking the
men into 18
years of
child
support.
Many took
DNA tests
proving that
they were
not the
fathers of
the children
they now had
to take
second jobs
to support.
Others were
assigned
huge support
arrearages
by mistake.
Many became
unable to
support
their own
children.
Some of
their
marriages
broke up,
and some of
the men
landed in
jail.
"Garcetti
created so
much chaos
and
heartache
that even
diehard
feminist
attorney
Gloria
Allred
protested.
Allred, who
has perhaps
done more
than anybody
to promote
the phrase
and concept
of 'deadbeat
dads,'
called
Garcetti's
office 'an
organization
without a
heart,
without any
compassion,
and without
a sense of
priorities...[it's]
a system run
amok.''
"Allred
represented
an
impoverished,
wheelchair-bound
woman named
Mary Smith,
who
Garcetti's
office
erroneously
billed for
$24,000 in
child
support. In
a panic
Smith called
Allred, who
agreed to
handle the
case pro
bono. Allred
made
repeated
calls to
Garcetti's
office to
resolve the
case but did
not receive
any
response.
She noted,
'Talk about
trying to
get blood
out of a
stone.'
"The
Los Angeles
Times
described
the men
targeted by
Garcetti as
'overwhelmingly
blue-collar
workers who
ride the bus
or drive
aging cars,
showing up
for court in
jeans and a
work shirt.'
According to
the Times:
"The men
almost
always come
to court
alone
because they
cannot
afford
counsel. It
can take
months to
get an
appointment
with the
county-sponsored,
free
paralegal
service."
"When
they arrive
in court,
many are
already
awash in
child
support
debt. Their
failures to
answer
summonses
routinely
lead to
court
orders--even
if the
summonses
never
reached
them.
"From
that point
on they are
in trouble,
with bills
for
delinquent
child
support
quickly
reaching
thousands of
dollars. But
sometimes
the accuracy
of those
bills cannot
be relied
upon.
"'People
get the
bills and
they're
almost
always
wrong,' said
one
prosecutor.
'It's like a
bank putting
in a
hypothetical
balance
instead of
putting in
your real
balance'...
"'So
pervasive
are the
mistakes
that even
the courts
have lost
confidence
in the
government's
accounting...[the
men
targeted]
square off
against an
office with
dozens of
prosecutors,
who...are
pressured by
their bosses
to speed
cases
through to
secure more
collections.'
"Jackie
Myers, a
former
Deputy
District
Attorney
under
Garcetti,
said that
she quit her
job because
'we were
being told
to do
unethical,
very
unethical
things.'
"Garcetti
later
acknowledged
that many of
the men had
been
mistakenly
targeted but
refused to
relent,
instead
blaming the
men for not
responding
within 30
days. 'The
law is the
law,' he
told CBS's
Bernard
Goldberg.
Incredibly,
in 2002
Garcetti was
appointed to
the Los
Angeles City
Ethics
Commission."
Garcetti's
appointment
to the
ethics
commission
is also
sadly
indicative
of the
weakness of
our
movement.
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Someone Who
Didn't Take
My Advice on
Child
Support...
I
sometimes
get letters
from
custodial
dads who
complain to
me that
their exes
aren't
paying their
child
support.
This isn't
surprising--as
I've
mentioned in
the past,
according to
US Census
data,
noncustodial
mothers are
20% more
likely to
default on
their child
support
obligations
than
noncustodial
fathers.
This is
despite the
fact that
noncustodial
mothers are
less likely
to be
required to
pay child
support, and
those with
support
obligations
are asked to
pay a lower
percentage
of their
income in
child
support than
noncustodial
fathers.
Partly
because of
this,
custodial
fathers are
three and a
half times
as likely to
work long
work weeks
as custodial
mothers.
In my
column
Not the Era
of the
Deadbeat Dad
but the Era
of the Hero
Father (Ft.
Worth
Star-Telegram,
6/19/05)
I noted:
"While
divorced
dads are
unfairly
stigmatized
as stingy,
some
noncustodial
fathers
raise their
children in
their homes
but still
pay child
support to
the
children's
mothers.
Many others
never ask
for child
support. In
the face of
a family
court system
which
usually
grants
mothers a
monopoly of
power over
children,
these
fathers must
buy or rent
their
children
back. When
mothers
allow their
children to
live with
their
fathers--or
send them
there
because
they've
become
unruly or
inconvenient--fathers
often won't
challenge
custodial
and
financial
arrangements
because they
fear doing
so will mean
they'll be
pushed out
of their
children's
lives. "
When
asked my
advice in
these
situations,
I sometimes
tell fathers
that if they
can live
without the
money it's
sometimes
best to not
bother
trying to
get child
support, for
the
following
reasons:
1) the ex
probably
won't pay
anyway
2) if she
does, it
won't be
much
3) asking
for the
support
might enrage
her--as
family law
attorney
Lisa Scott
says,
"you've
never heard
complaints
about paying
child
support
until it's a
woman who
has to pay
it."
4) Once
she's
enraged, the
odds are
that she's
going to
make a false
accusation
against you
and cause
you far more
misery than
any benefit
you'd get
from her
child
support.
I suppose
the dads to
whom I've
given this
advice could
accuse me of
being
generous
with their
money, but
the other
day I
received a
letter which
provides a
classic
example of
what can
happen when
a custodial
dad asks for
child
support:
"I am
writing you
on behalf of
my brother.
He is the
custodial
parent to
his 8 year
old special
needs son,
which he was
granted
after their
divorce over
5 years ago.
And until he
filed for
child
support
against the
mother only
2 years ago,
he never had
any problems
out of her.
Her interest
in her son
was
lackluster
at best. Now
that she has
been order
to pay child
support she
is trying to
make his
life a
living hell.
"She is
constantly
calling CPS
and the
local police
department
to make
accusations
of physical
abuse
against the
child that
are never
substantiated.
But each
time he has
to defend
himself,
especially
for CPS. The
local police
normally ask
her for
proof which
she is never
able to
provide and
they dismiss
the report,
but CPS is
always
requiring
him to come
there for
interviews,
setting him
up for
counseling,
and also
notating
these events
in a file
that has to
be
maintained
because
reports are
being made.
"This is
so
devastating
to him
because he's
having to
take time
off from
work, which
he really
can't afford
to do. It
seems so
endless is
there
anything
that he can
do to put a
stop to this
madness. Any
legal way to
prevent her
or CPS from
pulling him
into this
craziness
all because
she is the
WOMAN and
there is a
more
sympathetic
ear even if
she's NOT
the
custodial
parent."
Still
want to ask
for that
child
support,
dad?
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Social
Worker Has
Interesting
Perspective
on Domestic
Violence,
Child Abuse
One of my
readers is a
social
worker who
has an
interesting,
insider's
perspective
on domestic
violence and
child abuse.
He wrote me
after
reading my
columns on
AB 2051.
The social
worker
wrote:
"I have
been a child
protection
investigator
and
currently
work in a
capacity
where I do
therapy with
families in
crisis,
usually
dealing with
CPS in some
way. I do
not have
statistics
but a
majority of
abuse/neglect
cases are
related to
behaviors of
women,
either in
picking
loser guys
for
boyfriends
or they are
the
perpetrators.
"One of
the worst
abuse
investigations
I ever did
the mother
was the
perpetrator,
and a few
years ago I
worked a
case where
the mother
beat her 4
year old
daughter to
death. The
child had so
many marks
you could
hardly find
a place not
marked-bruised,
cut, or
scraped.
"Regarding
domestic
violence, I
agree that
men are
usually the
perpetrators.
However,
there are
many cases
where the
men are
arrested for
simply
trying to
get way from
the
wife/girlfriend
punching or
throwing
things at
him. I also
often run
into cases
where a
woman has
lied about
what she has
said to
police to
keep a
father away
from his
children in
divorce/separation
cases. It is
a very
common
tactic in
divorces,
and in most
cases the
courts will
take what
the woman
says as fact
when there
is
absolutely
no truth in
the
accusations.
And
protective
orders are
issued with
false
allegations,
which
results in
supervised
visitation
or no
visitation
between
fathers and
their
children, or
no chance
for custody
of the
children.
"Some of
these issues
were quite a
wake-up call
for me
because I
used to
believe all
the stories
about abused
women and
abuse/neglect
issues with
fathers/men
as the perps.
However,
life
experience
has shown me
that women
are just as
capable as
men to be
violent and
that women
are the
perpetrators
much more
often than
people want
to believe.
It is a part
of society
that seems
to escape
having the
truth
exposed. I
had to learn
to take each
case and
start from
the
beginning
and not to
assume a
thing.
"Kids
also learn,
in abuse
cases, that
they can lie
about
allegations
against
parents to
get them
into
trouble.
Kids learn
to behave
from their
parents (or
primary
caregivers),
so it is any
wonder why
this problem
is
increasing?
"Domestic
violence
courts are a
joke because
the
people/alleged
victims take
it that way.
Protective
orders are
filed and
then dropped
when they
want to make
up with the
alleged perp.
I have been
to too many
DV courts
where women
joke around
talking
about how
they are
going to
show their
man what
they can
do."
Glenn
Appears on
the
Lynne
Breidenbach
Show
I discussed
my new
co-authored
column
Are Single
Mothers the
'New
American
Family?'
(World
Net Daily,
9/28/06)
on the
nationally-syndicated
Lynne
Breidenbach
Show on
October 11,
2006.
Best Wishes,
Glenn Sacks
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