After reading the letter "Women remain at risk" (Sunday, Mar. 5), by Deen Meloro, president of the N.J. State Federation of Women's Clubs of GFWC, I find her statistics about domestic violence against women unbelievable.  She claims that one in four women will become victims of domestic violence.  She claims that there were 76,000 reported cases of domestic violence in New Jersey in 2004.  They were "reported" cases, not charges or convictions.  This kind of irresponsible fabrication of numbers skews the statistical analysis.  And, women aren't the only victims of domestic violence.

According to U.S. Justice Department statistics almost 1 Million men were victims of domestic violence last year.  But we never hear word one about men being abused.  And, there is definitely no legislation or funding to protect men from female batterers or funding for battered men's shelters.

When men go to court, they are usually laughed at by the judges.  I know.  I was one of those victims.  I was laughed at by the courts until I told the judge hearing my case that if she didn't give me a restraining order, and I was attacked again by my ex-wife, I would defend myself with deadly force, if necessary.  I was immediately granted the restraining order.

Study after study shows that domestic violence against men are by women who use guns, poison, automobiles, knives and hitmen to equalize the size factor.  Many studies show that men will not defend themselves for fear of being arrested and prosecuted by unfair domestic violence laws.

Recently, the Rutgers Law Review printed an article entitled,  "The New Star Chamber: The New Jersey Family Court and the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act", by lawyer David Heleniak, who called the entire domestic violence process as an "area of law mired in intellectual dishonesty and injustice".

It is time for the New Jersey legislature to address this serious problem of violence against men by women, and institute laws for funding of battered men's shelters and battered men's programs.

Given the shame and embarrassment of a man reporting domestic violence common sense tell you men under report. Hence the actual statistics, which claim about 40% of DV is caused by women is no doubt low. In fact women are more emotional and probably attack men far more often, but men do not pursue legal recourse very often unless it is to defend against false accusations.