From: The Fatherhood Coalition [mailto:FATHERS-L@HOME.EASE.LSOFT.COM]
On Behalf Of Richard Alexander
Sent: Wednesday, July 06, 2005 10:41
Subject: A father without rights
I was introduced today to your list.
I am an unwed father of a 12 year
old boy. he lives with his mother.
I have supported him and her for the
last 13 years.
I do not have my name on his birth
certificate and she refuses to let
me do that. She will only let me spend
time with him in her house.
What rights do I have and how can
I change that and be able to have
him in my place for visitation?
Lots of appreciation.
If you are the biological father you
have, at a minimum visitation rights.
You need to file a complaint to open
a case and then move for a DNA test
I would think. Once paternity is established,
unless the mother can prove you are
some sort of threat to the child,
you MUST be awarded some visitation
rights. It is common that this be
alternating weekends and a dinner
or two per week, but this is totally
up to the judge and how hard you want
These rights are "fundamental
constitutional rights" that can
only be taken away to save a child
from serious harm, and then only to
the minimum extent possible. (See
the 14th Amendment, 1983, 1985 and
much case law support this from the
SJC which is often ignored by arrogant
judge who think they get to make the
Be aware though that once the complaint
(case) is open the amount of child
support may be up for change and debate
too. In Massachusetts this is around
26% of your gross income - the highest
percentage of income in the nation.
Effectively they are hiding alimony
in this figure and making it "child
extortion". Pay it or go to jail.
This is because there are big federal
incentive to drive the child support
collection figures higher any way
they can. I have been told over $140
million was paid illegally to Massachusetts
for making these "goals".
Some claim this is what funds the
judges retirements and that much of
this money disappears somehow in the
courthouse budgets. With a decent
salary child extortion can easily
equal double or triple the cost of
raising a child, when it should be
50% of this cost if it were really
child support. So in fact (according
to government figures) it can be as
much as $1 million over the actual
cost of raising a child if you have
a low six figure salary.
I would suggest seeing if you can
negotiate this out of court. If you
can because the attorneys will start
circling, stir up the pot to generate
lots of fees and before you know it
you will have spent $10,000 to $20,000
(and she will too) just to enforce
your "god given" rights.
The system is SO slanted toward woman
that the lawyers will convince them
they can get anything (and they often
do). This makes for lots of fighting
and fees for them and their buddies.
This system is a disgrace and basically
the judges and lawyers break the law
every single day in most cases. Hard
to believe to the unindoctrinated
but this is literally true. I have
not been in court yet where I have
not seen the law broken by a judge
and/or attorney. They attempt to steamroll
over you hoping you know nothing about
the law, so they can do whatever is
convenient and most profitable for
them. Expect no attorney to have your
best interests in mind over their
billable hours and ongoing relationship
with the judges.
I know this sounds cynical, but trust
me it is absolutely 100% literally
true. I have studied this now for
almost 9 months and it is a disgusting,
corrupt system driven purely by the
self-interests of the people who run
it. They have no shame or ethics.
The divorce and domestic violence
industry is now over $250 billion
per year for these pigs at the trough
feeding on and exploiting our grief
to grab as much of your estate as
they can on the way through their
system. It has become a monster.
See articles on this site about how
the "domestic violence advocates"
encourage women to lie to beef up
their figures and bribe them with
financial support (yours and government
There is a conspiracy
of silence to keep this gravy training
rolling and the few lawyers that fight
it are attacked to discredit and disbar
them. It is a HORRIBLE, HORRIBLE tragedy
and system. Effectively it is a tyranny
but justice is coming to rip it down.
This will take years due to the powerful
entrenched bureaucracy that will milk
this cow as long as they can no matter
how many millions of children and
fathers it is destroying.
Please join and support
one of the better fathers groups listed
or google a group in your state.