Parental Alienation Syndrome - Ruins Parental Bonds and Hurts Children
ZAHN: In tonight's eye-opener, a troubling syndrome that's
tearing many children and parents apart is one that can be
especially painful at times like Father's Day. While most kids
were spending time with their dads yesterday, others went out of
their way to avoid their fathers all together yesterday and
experts say a growing number of children whose parents divorce
are being taught by one parent that the other, in many cases,
the father, is a monster. And the devastating results are
detailed in this month's "Best Life" magazine. Jason Carroll has
more in tonight's eye-opener.
Please write an thank them for covering this very important issue. It will help in possibly getting more attention, that is greatly needed.
Dear PAPA Group Members and friends,
This e-mail was originally going to focus on some possibilities that I saw for those attending our meeting this Thursday (as well as those contributing over the web,) Our meetings continue to develop into a more effective forum for personal healing and empowerment, parenting growth and family reunification, and even likely efforts in community education and political action. It's been exciting to be a part of sharing the creation of a social and personal change vehicle that embodies goals, values and commitment which I believe in. And couldn't be more important.
Then George Mason sends me NOW's annual meeting resolution regarding PAS. And I feel like a criminal. The last sentence in the resolution speaks for itself, "any professional whose mission involves the protection of the rights of women and children denounce its use as unethical, unconstitutional, and dangerous. " Read it for yourself and understand that the expression "first they ignore you, then they call you crazy, then they battle you, and then YOU win" is where we are in of making our case on behalf of our children.
We're really getting to them! They know the truth, and I think they're panicking as PAS gains more credibility every day in Courts and Communities around the country. The follow up show to "Breaking the Silence" will be televised on PBS September 12, and it will I believe, set the record straight.
Their resolution is both shocking and appalling given that more than 150 scholarly articles have been written substantiating PAS both in clinical and epidemiological terms. Enough so that the American Psychiatric Association has appointed a committee to explore PAS inclusion for DSM 5 in 2010.(This is the diagnostic "bible" for mental health professionals)
I don't think that's too strong a term to describe how this resolution is demanding that any professional swear allegiance against PAS or they are being "unethical, unconstitutional and dangerous." Ideology applied on a grand scale painting hatred of others as the only explanation for a problem is a fascist expression of the manipulative power of control through fear. It exploits as it manipulates thru stereotypes and prejudice, hardly "in the best interest of the child."
It seems obvious to me that there are inconsistencies in the logic, inaccuracies in the facts, and a lack of moral grounding in the NOW resolution. I'm sure we will take the resolution apart line by line and see how it is based on falsehoods, slander and bias. We can save that for later.
For our PAPA Meeting we face the challenge to respond to their statement in the most powerful way possible. It is that opportunity to bring mothers and fathers together. Women will be more effective in challenging the prevailing cultural myths about PAS that NOW has clearly restated. It's a great new opportunity to expand our efforts thru recruiting new parents to take up the fight against alienation.
We must come together and realize that we are at a higher level of moral reasoning in protecting the best interests of children. We do not look at the tragedy of children hating a parent just thru the eyes of "protecting women and children," but understand that children are really protected when they learn tolerance, acceptance and we practice the opposite of alienation - inclusion.
It especially galls me to read the resolution after providing counseling to children and parents for 35 years who have been damaged beyond repair by the too often heartless, ignorant, or just plain greedy divorce industry. The collusion with the DV industry and organizations such as NOW is obvious in how both thrive on polarization, animosity and yes, hatred. The adversarial decision-making contest the family court practices too often predetermines a motive and a means for the alienating parent to receive the King's ransom. And another family suffers unnecessary pain, financial devastation, and children wounded forever.
What can we do about it ?? That is what our PAPA meeting is all about! we all need to come together and tell our stories so that the world can hear. It's time for all of us: mothers and fathers, grandparents, aunts and uncles and adult children from alienated families to recognize that we are the courageous warriors of truth, hope and love.
There is a higher level of responsibility when you are the healthiest, most aware family member. Often that challenge is a burden that causes us to give up or become enraged. We have other options and our PAPA meeting is a chance to collectively and individually stand up for what's right. I'm looking forward to seeing as many of you as possible on Thursday at 730 in Framingham. Jeff Parks (508)-561-8186.
Yet the National Organization for Women Attempts to Deny and Hide Reality and Actually Intimidate Mental Health Professionals into Ignoring this Problem.
This "resolution" shows the true colors of NOW. They are an organization interested in promoting unequal rights, even when this hurts the children of their members as a result. What could be more telling of the lack of moral integrity of this organization than this.
Passed at NOW Annual Meeting July 26,2006
NOW TO DENOUNCE SO-CALLED PARENTAL ALIENATION (SYNDROME)
WHEREAS, the term Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) was created by the psychiatrist, Richard Gardner. It is used as a tactic in courts by litigating attorneys as a defense strategy for batterers and sexual predators that purports to explain a child's estrangement from one parent, or explains away allegations against the estranged parent of abuse/sex abuse of child, by blaming the protective parent; and
WHEREAS, there are no data to support PAS; and
WHEREAS, mothers are primarily pathologized and blamed for interfering with their children's attachment to their fathers and PAS is used by many evaluators and courts to discount children's fears in hostile and psychologically abusive situations as a form of entrapment, keeping the child from the protective parent; and
WHEREAS, abuse is continued via the court system thru a series of ruthless assaults from all angles strategically planned over time by an abuser, his criminal-divorce-
WHEREAS, as documented in the PBS film, Breaking The Silence, The Children's Stories there are epidemic levels of abuse and dysfunction in our courts system where espoused judges repeat Richard Gardner's unsubstantiated doctrine and make binding recommendations in conjunction with PAS therapists and PAS attorneys; and
WHEREAS, the newly revised, 2006 edition of "Navigating Custody and Visitation Evaluations in Cases with Domestic Violence: A Judge's Guide," published by The National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, includes a strong statement condemning the use of PAS which it calls a "discredited" syndrome that favors child abusers in custody determinations;
THEREFORE, BE IT RESOLVED, that the National Organization for Women (NOW) denounces Parental Alienation Syndrome and recommends that any professional whose mission involves the protection of the rights of women and children denounce its use as unethical, unconstitutional, and dangerous.