Checklist To Protect Your Child From The
Judiciary
From:
http://dadsusa.org/
The below 10
points are information you must know, and
actions you must take, to protect you and your
children from our present day judicial branch.
They were developed through hard experience of
fathers who got sole or joint custody, which are
unusual outcomes.
1. The only
place a father has an undisturbed relationship
with his children, is when he's married to the
mother. The parents have complete autonomy from
government control and scrutiny.
When the first document is filed in a divorce or
paternity case, permanent control of your child
and 1/4 to 3/4 of your future earnings,
is transferred to the government. A trial judge
assumes the primary decision maker status, in
about 9 out of 10 contested cases will
assign the child to live with mom, and then put
numerous restrictions on dad. This judge cares
nothing about you or your children, may
completely cut you off from them, and make you
pay hundreds to tens of thousands of dollars a
month to the mother.
That is a blatant violation of constitutional
law (14th Amendment Due Process and Equal
Protection). Good luck finding an attorney who
will argue that for you. A few dads have
asserted their rights without an attorney, and
to date the judges have either improperly
applied the law, or simply refused to issue a
ruling at all.
The above bad things happen to good men on a
routine basis, and you want to do everything you
can to avoid a child of yours coming under a
judge's jurisdiction. You do this by staying
married to the mother, or not having sex outside
of wedlock.
2. If a custody action is filed, you have
forever lost legal control over the child.
There's nothing you can do about that, but you
can at least minimize the intrusion into the
relationship to your child, and how
much wealth will be taken from you.
If you live in the same home as your child, do
not move out of that home. By far the most
significant order in a custody case, is who has
the primary custodial (residential) status. You
want that legal designation, and have about a
zero chance of getting it if at the time of
trial your child isn't primarily living with
you, and you are providing more than
50% of the child's physical care. You can see
why few dads get custody.
3. If you can't get primary custody, you can
still maximize court ordered parenting time, and
the judge might even let you have some decision
making such as over education, healthcare, or
extra curricular activities. You'll get that by
missing no opportunity to spend time with and
interact with your child, including phone calls
and sending letters and packages. This creates
a hurdle for a judge to give you less parenting
time than you are already exercising, and
positions you in the future return to court and
ask for more.
4. Don't threaten or do anything negative to the
mother. She can take the child out of the
country and deny your Christmas visitation, she
can file false abuse charges against you, and
the judge will probably do nothing to her. But
if you do something as minor as have your child
deliver a message to her, or scold her in front
of the child, they might use this to limit your
parenting time.
They're looking for any reason to give mom
everything, and you can create a hurdle to
block this by not doing anything that could be
remotely considered negative to her. Never
touch the mother in anger. You will spend
thousands of dollars to plead guilty or be
convicted of domestic violence, for life you
will be restricted from even touching a firearm,
and you might have permanent restrictions on
your parenting time. At least one dad who made
statements over the telephone which
could
have been construed to be threatening, was
sentenced to 3 years in federal prision.
5. Two terrible things that happen in some cases
are false abuse charges and Parental Alienation
Syndrome (PAS). Some attorneys advise their
clients to file false abuse charges, and will do
so in the most hurtful way such as the beginning
of the Christmas holiday or summer parenting
time. Getting to know the adults around your
child, such as her teacher, coach, doctor, and
daycare provider, will help deter false
charges.
PAS occurs when a child has little contact over
an extended period of time with one of his
parents, and the custodial parent projects great
hostility to the excluded parent. Under this
circumstance over time the child forgets his
positive feelings towards the excluded parent,
and adopts the disposition of the custodian. To
observers the child appears to hate or even fear
the excluded parent. If you carefully follow
the recommendations in this article, you are
unlikely to have your child turned against you
in this manner.
6. Work to change the child custody and support
laws in your state capitol. Ideally you will go
there and start knocking on doors, to get child
support based on the cost to raise kids (present
system based on your income and includes massive
hidden alimony), and to block judges from taking
decision making from unmarried parents (instead
it is shared between them on a time-divided
basis). If you can't go in person, click on the
PayPal link below, and support us in getting the
laws changed. Even if we're not active in your
state, we effect you by lobbying at the federal
level, and any state where the law is improved
increases the chances that it will happen where
you are.
To encourge legislators in your state capitol,
work with others to write letters to the editor,
etc. Don't put your name on any public article
or website. Don't mention to your attorney or
in any court proceeding, that you are involved
in father's rights. The judge and
attorneys will retaliate against you through
your child. Have your mom, friend, co-worker,
or anyone with a different last name than yours,
do the public activities.
7. Build personal relationships with and make
financial contributions to state and
federal legislators, which will give them a real
incentive to ensure your life in all respects is
good. You begin that process by working on
their campaigns.
8. Keep gaining knowledge about the system, by
searching the Internet for father's or parent's
rights discussion groups and local meetings, and
going to watch court hearings. This will enable
you to learn all the legal options you have
available
9. Be prepared to appeal. That requires a court
reporter at every hearing, which you should have
anyway, and a filing bond of $1000 or so.
10. Consider representing yourself. In case
after case the attorney totally sells out the
father, which makes a worse outcome that if the
dad had even poorly represented himself. Some
big advantages are the other side is racking up
attorney fees and diminishing their resources,
you will be able to accurately present your case
to the judge, and the legal system will see you
are not among the 99% of the population that are
sheep who can be taken advantage of.
To effectively represent yourself you need to be
smart, tenacious, slow to anger, very adaptable,
have a partner who can watch the proceedings and
give you feedback, and have an attorney to
consult on certain procedural questions. If you
don't have all of those, you are almost
certainly better off hiring an attorney, even
though they are at some level going to work
against your interests.
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