Recently, a woman
named Bridget Marks had an affair
with a married man, and she conceived
and bore twin daughters as a result.
The man in question is quite wealthy,
and she in turn was a former Playboy
model, so the case attracted a high
level of publicity as a result.
The little girls in question are stunningly
pretty.
They were involved in a court case
concerning the usual issues -- support
and visitation. During the course
of the litigation, the little girls
claimed that their dad sexually abused
them. They were 4 years old
at the time.
THE COURT SUBSEQUENTLY DETERMINED
THAT THEIR MOTHER
COACHED THE LITTLE GIRLS TO MAKE
FALSE ACCUSATIONS.
The court was enraged, and ordered
mom to surrender the girls to their
dad forthwith. The court withdrew
all custody and visitation rights
from mom for her campaign of false
accusation.
At this point, the case became a media
spectacle. There were all kinds
of reporters and photographers taking
pictures of mom and the daughters,
everyone weeping hysterically, as
mom was complying with the court order
to turn over the little girls to their
dad. Mom in fact set up the
whole media blitz. Anyway, the
reporters took amazing photos of mom
taking the hysterical girls from the
lobby of their fashionable high-rise
on Manhattan's Upper East Side to
dad's waiting limousine.
Mom appealed and
won a couple of days ago. Now,
she and the daughters are all smiles.
She has custody. She and dad
are negotiating on a visitation agreement.
He asked for unrestricted visitation
rights and she refused. |
The recent ruling
for Bridgett Marks seems to exemplify
the huge sexual bias against fathers
in the probate and family courts nationally.
I guess if you are a good looking,
sexy woman you can pretty much
get whatever you want out of a man
(before, during and after marriage). Even
if he is a judge sworn not to be swayed
by such sexual
bias
and stereotypes.
Unfortunately you do not even have
to know how to manipulate the press,
as Bridgett did so well, to get this
kind of treatment. Here
is a woman who has committed fraud
and perjury, at the very least, probably
also conspiracy by coaching her
children to lie about their father.
It is so hard to see (and personally
offensive) that women who actually
get caught committing FRAUD and PERJURY
get full
physical custody of their children,
when men might be sent to jail for
such behavior.
What does this say
about what we are willing to teach
our children? What does this say about
how deeply ingrained this sexual
bias is in the courts today
from 30 years of "tradition"
and judges who must have had very
bad fathers in the 1950s and 1960s
and are taking it out on the fathers
of this decade.
I continue to be
totally disgusted by this rampant
judicial bias, which is clearly against
the equal rights amendment and other
constitutional "guarantees"
of fathers' fundamental constitutional
"equal" rights to raise
their children. The supreme
court has upheld and clarified these
rights. The standard to take
away a father's children is very high
indeed.
Legally, according
to the supreme court, the state must
show a "compelling interest"
to the level of serious physical or
emotional harm to the child to limit
a father's rights to raise their children
in any way. Even when this is
actually proven those fundamental
rights must be limited to the minimum
extent possible to alleviate
this "state interest".
Yet states ignore this superior court
ruling every day in the majority of
their cases. They hide behind vague
state laws designed to give judges
total discretion, called "the
best interest of the children"
which are not. These laws are probably
completely unlawful, due to their
vagueness under another very clear
supreme court ruling. The
lawyers for men are actually afraid
to confront judges of their abuses
for fear of losing their right to
charge their huge hourly rates.
The federal government just looks
the other way.
Where is our constitution
going? Attacks on the First
Amendment get lots of coverage in
the press, even though they are not
that common. Here this is happening
EVERY DAY, in virtually every state
court and it is ignored completely. There
are class action suit in forty-six
of fifty states on these issues and
the national press has not even given
this the slightest attention.
Our fundamental constitutional
rights to raise our children,
and enjoy their company
are being squashed by sexual bias.
This is illegal, unfair, un-American
and clearly unconstitutional too.
The press needs to get involved in
this problem, as it is one of the
top problems in our country today.
It is creating fatherlessness every
day.
Shared parenting
with 50-50 rights must become not
only the law, but the actual practice
forced on judges, unless the parents
agree otherwise. In a recent
Massachusetts non-binding referendum
eighty-five percent of voters agreed
that equal rights should go to fathers
and mothers after a divorce. State legislatures
have implemented laws
to protect battered women that
are actaully being used
to abuse fathers
every single day in most states today. In
interviews with lawyers I have been
told that between 50%
and 90% of restraining orders in
Massachusetts issued are improperly
used to throw the
father out of the house and deny them
access to their children,
with absolutely no real basis in any
kind of violence or threat of it. It
is the nuclear weapon of divorce,
which instantly puts the father in
a position of guilt when nothing has
happened. Often these
are with false (and sometimes
even no) accusations,
but the standard of proof and evidence
is ignored and a man's entire life,
property, possessions and children
are denied him instantly without due
process. This
can even be done without him present
(ex-parte) and is happening tens of
thousands of times each month
in the U.S. This is enormously
destructive to families and children.
However, again the "legal"
system loves it
because it generates
huge legal fees.
It sets up a great fight to maximize
the earnings of lawyers who are hired
to fight for the father, uphill all
the way to get back to where the default
should be anyway. What a racket!
The undebatable abuse of father's
constitutional rights
must stop and the press must begin
to cover this issue until it is fully
resolved. No "due
process", no presumption of innocence,
no "equal rights" guaranteed
under the ERA. The research on
what is best for the children is
now in
and it is very clear both parents
must be involved as much as possible
to balance the children's development.
Yet the family courts are basing
their decisions today on research
that is decades old,
and experts
say was never scientifically
valid
in the first place. This
practice should have gone
away with the Equal Rights Amendment,
at least for fathers that care about
their children and want to participate
in their upbringing.
As is often the case the root of the
problem is MONEY! The $250 billion
per year divorce and domestic violence
industry is a monster. Hundreds of
millions of dollars are being kicked
back to states to increase "child
support" payments. Given
the courts incentives to be biased.
Therefore the more child support,
the bigger the industry and staff
get to generate more child support
and staff. It is a vicious circle
that is fed by the powerful feminist
lobby with no counterbalancing men's
groups. It is totally out of
control, yet hidden from view to most
people in the unaccountable halls
of courts who are responsible to no
one.
Do you know that Virginia, with a
population similar to Massachusetts,
has about 1,500 outstanding restraining
orders at any one time and Massachusetts
has over 50,000? Do you think men
in Massachusetts are 33 times more
violent? Of course not, lawyers in
Massachusetts, Connecticut and may
states are using this legislation
for unfair advantage in divorce.
They coach their clients to say the
right words. This
abuse is immoral, rampant and despicable.
Any woman that is willing to just
say the word "fear"
to a judge, true or not, immediately
evicts her husband and controls the
children and their
home on day one. It is a horrible
situation.
Then this black cloud hangs over the
man throughout the divorce proceeding
as if he actually did something, when
nothing ever happened. I found all
this hard to believe but have now
studied it for several months. I grew
up thinking that the judicial system
was fair and guaranteed us this, like
I believe most people did. In fact
this has all be subverted by "bench
trials". Judges do what they
want based on their personal agenda
without fear of anything, even for
fraud and bias. Our forefathers,
in their great wisdom, created
juries to be the balance against the
judicial system branch of our government
getting out of control -- this has
been squashed by overzealous judges
and legislators more concerned about
budgets and other things than justice
for all.
There is no question that the family
courts and judges are literally breaking
the constitution every day (the
14th amendment as codified in Title
42, Sec. 1983, and
1985). The only question is
when will they be called to
task and held responsible for this abhorrent
behavior
that is damaging our children.
I, for one, am committed to a multi-year
battle to make this happen.
Whatever that takes.
This Marks ruling shows what most
others do with some visibility due
to the pretty face that makes for
good news and circulation - that fatherlessness
is now encouraged by the state
courts and current legal
system. It is one of the largest problems
in the U.S. today
and will have decades of negative
impact on the next generation. This
is a silent travesty that is now coming
to light. Anyone
who researches
this well
will easily see that only lawyers
and judges benefit from the current
system, not children and families.
Of course,
they want it maintained for their
personal enrichment
and say everything is fine.
The government
is now effectively regulating against
marriage, because it is so onerous
to get divorced today, with as much
as 40% of your after tax income going
to your ex-wife just for "child
support". On average this can
represent more than six times the
actual cost of raising a child (by
independent statistics). Hence this
is "child extortion" not
child support - which would be 50% or
so of the actual cost of raising
a child - about
1/10th today's level
in many cases. Any man
earning less than $70,000 per year
can not even afford their own small
apartment in Massachusetts after
this standard divorce support award. Many
other states today
also have guidelines that force men
into bankruptcy and impoverishment,
and then jail them for not keeping
up. Recently
a soldier held hostage in Iraq was
placed in jail on his return because
he did not pay his child support while
he was being held hostage. What
kind of court system does this? Only
a broken one that needs complete reform
by outsiders, without any vested interest
in the huge sums of money changing
hands. The men (usually)
also pay all
the taxes on their
ex-wife's income
and far more, as the women gets
the "head of household"
tax benefits. This
is another story but it is what supports
and propagates this entire travesty.
Divorced
men are committing suicide at TEN
TIMES the rate of divorced woman.
Do you think this is an indication
that things are fair? A Harriet
Tubman like underground railroad has
formed to help men escape the country
due to the tyranny. What does this
indicate. The real life Serpico
was driven out of the country by the
family courts. This is the man that
broke the deep corruption of the NYC
police.
I realize this may all sound complex
and even unrelated, but believe me
it is not. It has taken me months
of study to understand this system
and all these things are deeply interwoven
and support each other. As in
all bureaucracies each layer adds
another level of problems and miscommunication.
These can multiple until a good intention
from the top (some fair level child
support when non-custodial parents
do not want their children half time)
can literally turn into an evil result
(fatherlessness). Father of
two beautiful children kidnapped by
the state of Massachusetts, with not
even an accusation of any wrongdoing
I will not be a "visitor"
to my children. I will be a father.
FACTS OF THE
CASE AS DETERMINED BY THE COURT:
- Bridgett Marks was found to
be an "unfit" mother
by the court
- The father was found to be a
"good and loving father"
- Bridgett Marks was found to
have coached her twin girls to
lie about their father sexually
abusing them
- She took both her twin girls
to the emergency room to be examined
vaginally to try to convince people
one girl was assaulted, when this
was not the case
- The mother tried to induce asthma
attacks when the father was coming
to fake that the girls were upset
and gave them drugs to do this
to benefit from the press
- The mother spend little time
with the children and have nanny's
- The father stop traveling on
business to be with the children
and claims to have never been
away from them a single night
while he initially had full custody
- The mother was awarded physical
custody
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