All across America
every day fathers are being eliminated
without cause from their children's
lives by family court judges? Every
day in family court fathers are separated
from their children simply because
mom and dad are no longer together.
Judges often allow the "custodial"
parent (usually the
mother) to relocate the children to
another state, leaving the "noncustodial"
parent alienated from the children
with little or no meaningful parental
contact. Parenting time (visitation)
orders can be ignored by the custodial
parent without any penalty, leaving
the noncustodial parent with no contact
with his children and no legal recourse.
Since parenting time orders are ignored
by the police and the court, fathers
often go months, or even years, without
any contact with their children.
Despite what you may read in the newspaper
about the court's fairness to both
parents, the court and the politicians
are only concerned with enforcing
"child support," a euphemistic
word for extortion of inordinate sums
of money. Child support is the only
thing enforceable in all family court
orders. Once this is established,
parenting time is YOUR PROBLEM.
"The best interest of the child"
really means "in the best interest
of the state." If this happened
anywhere else in the world, most people
would call it "oppression,"
"intimidation" and "racketeering."
If you are a concerned father who
loves his children (as most are),and
you fight "the system,"
family court will try to completely
eliminate you. When you fight for
your children -- not the judge's children;
not the politician's children; YOUR
children -- you will be labeled a
trouble maker, a problem, or a pain
in the a*s. In family court, the judges
will try to silence you by increasing
your child support. They call this
"imputing income." Once
this happens, and a father can't pay
this imputed child support, he is
labeled a "deadbeat" and
is now a criminal. Despite the father
being ready, willing and able to take
on all the parental obligations and
responsibilities in his child's life,
such as providing love and affection,
nurturing the child, caring for the
child while the other parent works,
etc., these issues are not addressed.
The court is only interested in "how
can we steal daddy's money."
There is an incentive for this racketeering.
For every dollar of support collected
by the state, the Federal government
kicks in sixty-six cents of taxpayer's
money to subsidize the child support
collection bureaucracy. There is no
accountability for how the state spends
Then, of course, lets not forget the
ultimate outrage to "put daddy
in his place" -- false allegations
of physical abuse and sexual abuse.
Nothing works better to get rid of
daddy than these false allegations.
Once they begin, fathers can say goodbye
to Jack and Jill. These fathers must
have "supervised" time with
their own children because they are
now "a threat." He is not
required to be supervised with any
of the other children he comes in
contact with, only his own.
Anybody except dad is allowed to be
a part of your child's life.
After the allegations, expect "the
investigation." It will last
anywhere from eighteen months to three
years, causing fathers to further
lose out on seeing their children.
The investigation will be managed
by the Division of Youth and Family
Services (DYFS). Your
case worker will have a case load
of 300 families. If you are lucky,
the case worker won't have too thick
of an accent, so you will be able
to understand what the heck he is
talking about -- that is if he will
talk to you at all. To him, your problems
aren't his problem.
Neither DYFS nor the court will believe
anything dad says about mom because,
after all, he's a deadbeat.
(When I showed the judge photographs
of my children's mother's home, his
reply was "Sir, surely you don't
expect me to believe that this woman
actually lives in all this filth.")
Family court places the father in
an impossible situation when it comes
to parenting time. Supervised at the
police station or in the courthouse
(where the supervision is paid for
by "good old dad"), no overnights,
no holidays. Fathers must drive long
distances to have limited time with
their children. No phone calls. Fathers
are not allowed to know the whereabouts
of their children. No day care information.
No school information. No vacation
information. Some fathers don't even
know where their children live.
The court's objective is to discourage
the father, causing him to give up
on his children. Once that happens,
he is no longer a problem for the
system to deal with. The only problem
is that they have scarred the children,
and this is unconscionable.
So, I ask you, do you think this is
fair? All of this happen to caring,
loving fathers every day. Is this
public policy "in the best interest
of the child?" Who can say that
having a father in his or her life
is not in the best interest of a child?
People like you and I must change
the public's perception of fathers.
We must not allow fathers to be seen
as just "paychecks" and
sperm donors without parental feelings.
All children have a God given right
to have their fathers involved in
their lives. No court, no judge, no
feminist organization, no political
trend has any moral right to interfere
with a father's God given right.
Judges and politicians just want fathers
to "pay up and shut up."
The more you fight for your children,
the more the system will block you.
Your crime, you may ask? Being a father.
Gary Ewing and Joe Sargente
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