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What is Government's Job?
A) To Extract as much money as
possible from fathers and drive them away from children OR
B) To help them raise their
This system does only A
would seem our government "servants"
have lost touch with their purpose and
are doing more damage than good in the
area of divorce and child "support".
Fathers are going to jail for not being
able to follow impossible child support
orders for job loss and other reasons.
Is this good for children, or even
custodial mothers? NOT! Many
are emotionally destroyed by the loss of
their children and can not continue to
work as well. Many are overwhelmed by
the system and legal fees which bankrupt
them and place them in poverty. The
child "support" (read extortion) system
is out of control. When will
our judicial system realize what common
sense says and science has known for
decades: Children need equal
access to BOTH parents to develop well.
Anything else is damaging to them. This
is NOT about MONEY except for lawyers
and judges. It is about nurturing and
developing our children - but
governement can only measure and control
MONEY so for them that is ALL this is
about. This system has become
"Life could already be difficult for fathers
who gets seriously behind in their
court-ordered child support payments," the
recent article read.
True - men that are laid
off and cannot pay their child support are
often treated no different than the men that
purposely evade paying support. Men that
lose their jobs because of illness are
routinely treated as deadbeats as well.
What about Reservists whose
units are activated and they have to quit a
well-paying job? Regardless of the
reason, parents who miss their child support
payments are labeled 'deadbeat' by
politicians and the press.
But what is not publicized
is that most noncustodial dads in arrears
earn less than $15,000 a year. If a
custodial mom earned a salary this low,
society would offer her help. The 'deadbeat'
dad is vilified and criminalized.
County Executive Andrew
Spano said that besides the effect on the
spouse and children, missing child support
payments "dips into the pockets of the
taxpayers" by forcing many families onto
welfare rolls. What about the men who would
be on welfare if they had custody? They are
Bear in mind, Spano and his
ilk across the country receive money from
Washington for every parent ordered to pay
child support - and the bigger amount of
child support ordered, the bigger Spano's
paycheck. It seems to me that Spano is the
one dipping into the pockets of the
Child support enforcement
agencies try to 'persuade' noncustodial
parents to pay with the threat of
name-calling and shame, license suspension,
and impounded cars. Did I mention the threat
There are two ways to make a
donkey move; the stick and the carrot. It
is time to try something positive to
encourage payment of child support:
to enforce a man's period of
possession if he is current on
Tax break every
year if he pays 12 months in
full and on time.
Extra time with
kids for prompt payment.
assistance for unemployed dads.
Free legal help
to modify child support amounts
when jobs are downsized.
I'm sure our
illustrious legislators could think
of more - if they were not so intent
on criminalizing dads.
`deadbeat dads,' then seize their cars
By JIM FITZGERALD
Associated Press Writer
October 17, 2006, 5:59 PM EDT
WHITE PLAINS, N.Y. --
The next step in Westchester County's drive
to collect child support from deadbeat
parents may be seizing their cars and
selling them, the Social Services
commissioner said Tuesday.
Commissioner Kevin Mahon spoke as the
county, hoping to shame some parents into
compliance, took out a newspaper ad to
publish the photographs of four men who have
skipped out on a total $193,000 in child
Mahon said he would do whatever works,
including impounding an offender's car and
then selling it if there's no support
payment in 30 days.
"If you don't want your picture in the
paper, you don't want your license
suspended, you don't want your car
impounded, you don't want to go to jail, do
the right thing," Mahon said. "Pay your
County Executive Andrew Spano said the
newspaper photos could accomplish three
_Embarass the four men into making payments.
_Prompt people who recognize them to report
_Put other offenders on notice that their
pictures, too, might appear in the newspaper
or on TV.
He noted that reneging on court-ordered
child support "not only changes the quality
of life of the spouse and children but it
also dips into the pockets of the taxpayers"
by forcing many families onto welfare rolls.
"If we could get one of these guys it would
pay for the ad 10 times over," Spano said.
The quarter-page ad in Tuesday's New York
Post cost $6,624. Spano said it would not be
repeated until results are evaluated.
The county executive said he paid support
for four children from a previous marriage
and had to adjust his spending to do it.
"I could not afford to live the lifestyle I
(previously) lived because I had to pay
child support, so I didn't live that
lifestyle," he said. "I changed it. I
downgraded it. I made sure I had the money,
because it's an important thing for families
to make sure that their children are taken
Mahon said parents who are tracked down
often say they don't have enough money but
have new cars and take vacations.
"They're not willing to say, `What's my
first responsibility?"' he said.
If someone who owes child support has no
job, he said, the county would help that
person find one.
Spano said about $144 million is owed in the
county, and the office of Child Support
Enforcement is hoping to collect $60 million
this year, up from $58 million last year.
Carmen Almeida, ex-wife of one of the men
pictured in the ad, is owed $63,000. She
said Tuesday that her husband has never paid
any support in the seven years they've been
divorced. As a result, she said, their
18-year-old daughter may have to drop out of
American University in Washington next
semester when a scholarship runs out.
She fears her ex-husband, Alberto Almeida,
may have fled to Portugal, but hopes friends
of his who see the picture "will speak to
him and see if he can send his daughter
something. She needs the money and he always
said he loved her very much."
Manuel Barreiro, director of the child
support office, said he had no record of an
attorney representing Alberto Almeida, and
Carmen Almeida did not recall the name of
her ex-husband's divorce lawyer.